Ah, nothing like a bit of scrolling on Instagram to make you feel bad about about your wardrobe, your hair, your body, your home, and your life. Everyone else’s lives look so perfect through the filters Instagram provides.
It’s easy to be down on yourself when you compare your life with the social media feeds of other people. They’re so put together, so stylish, so…perfect. But they aren’t reality.
People pick the best lighting, angles, and backdrops to send carefully staged or edited snapshots from their lives into cyberspace. Sure, maybe there are some folks who don’t stage or finesse them to death, but they certainly choose the most flattering things to share.
In your own home, with your own people, your life is good enough. That life may be sticky, unkempt, or shabby compared to the glossy feeds of social media. So what? Don’t succumb to the danger of comparison.
The bible talks about avoiding comparison and being content. This is because God knows us and understands how toxic this can be. It can drive a wedge between us and our loving Creator. Discontent and self-loathing are poor means for moving closer to God.
The more confident I became in my relationship with my loved ones and with Christ, the less I cared about what other people thought. Now this isn’t to say I like to purposely put unflattering pictures of myself online, but I have embraced who I am.
I am the mama who has carried, birthed, and loved three babies, so I have extra curves. I am the woman with the house that’s never totally tidy, but I’ll have friends over even if things aren’t perfect. I am the friend who will pray for your when you need it and ask my friends to do the same.
My life isn’t perfect, but it’s good enough because it’s my life and it’s real. I’d much rather be the real me than some fake version of myself that makes other people feel bad when they see my “perfection” on social media.
I’ll post the pic where my chin doubles slightly because I am smiling at my children. You’ll see the one of my son on the sofa with laundry next to him too, because I’m spellbound by his freckles. I want you to see these things. They’re my reality.
Here are a few verses to encourage you as you cast off the weight of other people’s perfection and put on your own real life instead:
Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. -Galatians 6:4-5 (NIV)
We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. -2 Corinthians 10:12 (NIV)
But godliness with contentment is great gain, for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. -1 Timothy 6:6-8 (ESV)
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. -Romans 12:3 (ESV)
You are not only good enough, you’re awesome because you’re you. God has created you and strategically placed you so you could be the friend, mama, wife, daughter, aunt, or sister He intended for you to be. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else because you are uniquely just right.
Scroll wisely dear friends. Remember, the Real You is the Best You!