As more life is experienced, I realize how important it is to surround myself with positive and supportive people.  Think of the prayer and discernment Jesus wrestled with when choosing his twelve disciples.  Luke 6:12-16 says, “One day soon afterward Jesus went up on a mountain to pray, and he prayed to God all night. At daybreak, he called together all of his disciples and chose twelve of them to be apostles.”  If I am going to live a courageous life, my outside influences will be a vital part of my success. 

Positivity is choosing to see the bright side of life. It is identifying that battles and hurts are not the only things to focus on, even if they are all we can see in the present moment.  It is taking notice of the good in people, even when it is practically impossible to comprehend.  In a nutshell, remember even with pain, sorrow, and evil – there is always good, and that is what we should focus our energy on.

Positive breeds positive, and plunging into “real life” confirms the need to surround ourselves with optimistic, compassionate, and encouraging people.  People who will bring us up.  People who believe in us.  People who cherish our friendship.  People who are genuinely happy for our successes.  People who share in our dreams and want to help us make those dreams come true. 

Spending hours of quality time with people is going to change you, hence the reason, we diligently pray for our children’s friends.  The same is true for us – who we hang out with is who we become.  Carefully choose positive influences that support you in being the person you want to become.  Another person’s character, conviction, and even appearance can rub off on you and change you to some degree.

We need one another, Moms.  I need my weaknesses to make me strong, and I need your encouragement to make me brave.  A life consumed with comparison, jealousy and envy only breeds negativity.  However, dumping these nasty traits releases freedom to be the “real you” – and that is optimism nobody can take from you. 

After stumbling upon this poem, it reminded me of how important our words and thoughts truly are.  They will energize us or wear us out – we get the choice.  Success comes in the “cans” not the “cannots.”

            If you think you are beaten, you are.

            If you think you dare not, you don’t.

            If you like to win, but you think you can’t,

            It is almost certain you won’t.


            If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost,

            For out in the world, you’ll find,

            Success begins with a fellow’s will –

            It’s all in the state of mind.


            If you think you are outclassed, you are,

            You’ve got to think high to rise,

            You’ve got to be sure of yourself before

            You can ever win the Prize.


            Life’s battles don’t always go

            To the stronger or faster man,

            But soon or later the man who wins

            Is the man Who Knows He Can!



Be Real ~ Be You!

Heather Hoerst

Heather Hoerst

Colossians 3:4, "When Christ, who is your real life, is revealed to the whole world, you will share in all His glory."