1 Thessalonians 5:11- “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing” (NIV).

There is a popular quote right now which states, “Find your tribe, love them hard”. I’m not sure who coined this phrase, so I apologize for not giving them proper credit, but I think it’s one that is so vital and powerful, especially today when community building can be stifled by increased isolation through “social connection”. How ironic.

That’s not the way it was meant to be.

Women, especially, are social creatures, but sometimes we get a bad rap when it comes to being a part of a group. There’s “girl drama”, or “cat fights”, lots and lots of gossip, and we constantly keep score in the “comparison game”…sound familiar? And this is what gets emphasized. Exploited. Criticized. Blown up to gargantuan proportions to the point where connections can be severed, friendships can be damaged, and mixed messages abound.

That’s not the way it was meant to be.

God made all of us to be a part of a community. One to support one another, love on each other, and build each other up, as we have to “do life” day in and day out. And women are so beautiful and unique and resilient and soft and complex and a multitude of indescribable qualities that would take me all day to list because that’s how fantastic we truly are….And I don’t say all this to boast or say we’re better than the opposite sex…I say this because we are God’s wonderful, unique, and beautiful creations that He designed to play a special and specific role during our short time on Earth. And we forget that. Often.

That’s not the way it was meant to be.

We need this tribe as we go through these lives given to us, to support, encourage, and love fiercely. Instead of spreading gossip, let’s speak words of affirmation to each other. Instead of putting up arms in drama or fighting, let’s open our arms and embrace one another. Instead of keeping score in the comparison game, let’s help each other play in the game of life. Let’s “encourage one another and build each other up”…

Because that’s the way it was meant to be.