If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all! We all grew up with our mothers telling us this, and I’m sure we’ve said this to our own kids at some point. Just think about it…We pick words of the year that are uplifting. We like to watch feel good movies and shows. We know the importance of our words. Yet even as Christian adult women, sometimes our words sting. Sometimes we say something ugly, gossipy, something that tears down another instead of lifting up.
I was reflecting on two different instances where women said things that stung. Things said to my face. One was a comment on my hair. The other had to do with how easy my life as a stay at home mom is. I don’t think either of these women meant anything mean or malicious by their comments, but that didn’t take the hurt away. The thought of “did she really just say that?!”
I know I am as guilty as the next with my words. But since these two instances I have really tried to work on it even more.
These verses in James are so convicting.and they let us know that we all have trouble with our tongues so we should work hard to watch what we say!
“And the tongue is a fire. The tongue, a world of unrighteousness, is placed among our members. It stains the whole body, sets the course of life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. Every kind of animal, bird, reptile, and fish is tamed and has been tamed by humankind, but no one can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in God’s likeness. Blessing and cursing come out of the same mouth. My brothers and sisters, these things should not be this way. Does a spring pour out sweet and bitter water from the same opening? Can a fig tree produce olives, my brothers and sisters, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a saltwater spring yield fresh water.”
James 3:6-12 CSB
I don’t about you, but I want blessing to come out of my mouth! I hope that 2018 can be the year we guard our words and think carefully before we speak. Think about the relationships that could be better if we guarded our tongue!
Is it edifying or uplifting? If not then it’s probably a thinker and not a sayer!