In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps. Proverbs 16:9

Oh boy, did God ever make this verse come to life for me recently. 

I recently joined the “New Mama Club” at the end of last year. Abigail Noelle made her grand entrance on December 17, 2017 at 8:29 PM. She weighed 8 pounds, 14 ounces and was 20 1/2 inches long.

Like any first time mom, I had my detailed birth plan printed out and ready to go. I was going to have to have a natural birth, (no epidural or any pain management drugs) and deliver vaginally. I had also planned on her coming a few weeks early (since I was a preemie).

At 37 weeks, I was excited at the possibility of meeting her soon.

At 38 weeks, I was getting a little more impatient.

At 39 weeks, I was trying everything under the sun to induce labor naturally.

At 40 weeks, I had a meltdown as to why I wasn’t in labor yet, and was bartering with God to not let me go too many days overdue.

My water broke late at night on my due date, and I had her the next day. Once contractions started, I implemented my natural birth plan throughout my entire 20+ hours of labor. Once I reached 10 cm dilated, I was finally able to start pushing, and pushed I did for 3 hours (definitely NOT part of the birth plan, I was counting on 2-3 pushes max!)

In my heart and in my mind I had every detail planned out, but God gracefully reminded me who is in control.

After 3 hours of pushing, I found out she had turned “sunny side up” and also had tilted her head to where she was no longer progressing (later the nurses said she was actually “stuck”). The doctor came in and uttered the words that I did NOT want to hear.


I had come so far, I stuck to my guns and labored without drugs or even an IV of fluid for 20 hours, and now I was faced with an outcome that I was not the least bit prepared for. I was exhausted emotionally, mentally and physically and spiritually. On one hand I felt like I was letting everyone down (including myself) not being able to deliver vaginally. On the other hand, the most important thing was to get her out safely and at that point I felt like I had nothing left to give.

There comes a time where you have to give up what you want and take what is given to you.

So I gave up my perfect birth plan and accepted God’s plan. 

I would love to tell you that since I was open to accepting another outcome that everything has been smooth sailing since, however that would be a lie. We are told that believing God and trusting in Him doesn’t mean that life is going to be easy, it means that we will have hope.

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

My dear friends, I encourage you to take the time to go through scripture and apply a personal experience or example that illustrates God’s faithfulness through His words. The beauty of being Christ followers is that He never desires us to have stagnant faith, instead He is always looking for ways to take us farther and deeper into a relationship with Him.

And that is just one the reasons that He is worth giving up your plans for!


Mrs. Stephanie Miller

Mrs. Stephanie Miller

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11).