Don’t Ask, Simply Show Up

The holidays can be such a joyful, festive time.  Decked halls and stairwells, exquisite Christmas trees topped with majestic angels and food galore are just a few of my favorite holiday staples.  Not to mention Christmas music!  Christmas is definitely one of my favorite times of the year. 

I love all that Christmas represents, the birth of our Lord and Savior.  To celebrate the birth of One born so we can live.  The One who paved the way for each of us as He walked this earth as fully man and fully God.  What an amazing time of year to rejoice among family and friends.

For some however, this time of year represents heartbreak and pain.  Loss and grief.  Conversely instead of celebrating and rejoicing, they are often grief-stricken and melancholy.  Rather than being amidst others, they isolate themselves.  Away from the parties, dinners and the noise.  Sometimes, away from church or even worse, away from God. 

Those who are hurting rarely admit it or ask anyone for help to get through difficult times.  After the funeral, life tends to go on for others.  But not for the person who has experienced the loss the most.  The dinners stop coming.  Flowers stop being delivered and phone calls dwindle.  Yet their pain continues.

A wise friend of mine once said, “Don’t ask, simply show up.”  It can become cliché to tell someone let me know if you need anything.  This offer may come with good intentions, but rarely any follow-through.  This could be because they are not asked to do anything.  Nonetheless, we know there is a need to be met.  Your time or monetary gifts can be a blessing to those who will never ask. 

During the Christmas holiday, consider those within your circle of influence.  Who may be hurting and need your time? What can you do to remind them they are loved?  How can you help?  Perhaps you can take a group of women over to help clean a friend’s home.  Or sponsor a ‘me’ day to a spa while babysitting her children.  Or you can show up with a great meal and a movie to cheer her up. 

Prayerfully think through what act of kindness would make the most impact.  “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them about your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart” (Proverbs 3:3).   Someone needs you during this season.  Meet their need. 

Don’t ask.  Simply show up and be a blessing. 


Mrs. Resealia McKinney

Mrs. Resealia McKinney

"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" (Prov 4:23).