I have been in some kind of funk lately. Some days are harder to bear with just a toddler and I. Other days, I wonder what I’m doing just being a stay at home mom. I’ve been wondering about my identity and who I am separate from my children, and even as it’s changing this season – I’m embracing this “full time writer” title – I still wonder if there is anything else I could do. But then I remember to go BACK TO THE BASICS.

I am a child of God.

Let me retype that. At the end of my day, at the beginning and the end of my life, I am and will always be a child of God.

That is basic.

That is Truth.

That is where my identity begins and ends.

I have so many projects, so much on my to-do list to compensate for this season of raising the littles. But at the end of the day, I am exhausted for trying to be everything that I wish I was, or could be.

I’m not a supermom. I’m just trying to get by.

I even started thinking about going back to school to start on a Master’s program since I’ve seen moms with toddlers do it. Why can’t I?

Society tells me that my worth is in my accomplishments. We measure the success of a person on the titles and accolades behind their names.

Success means staying late at the office and making more time for work – there is always time for family, later. Success means work hard, party harder. Success means “you can have it all.” Success means being a working mom is more productive to society than being a stay at home parent.

Successful = not being able to worry about money.


Basic: I am a woman, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a girl friend. How successful I am doesn’t change who I am in their eyes. I will always be the weirdo sister. I will always be the kooky, random middle child. I will always be the sarcastically short friend. I will always be a mommy.

These are my truths.

So how about we slow down a little bit and go back to the basics?

Breathe for a moment.

At your basic core, you are a child of God.

You are loved beyond measure.

“This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent His Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” 

– 1 John 4:10-12