If I were to describe my six year old; I would describe her as willful, yet, yielding when coached with love. She’s full of character. Full of courage and determination. She’s sympathetic with a playful spirit. Making us laugh comes natural for her; this is why I’ve always called her my sunshine. Just like her daddy. Though she (as being a child) possess a given innocence, she still undoubtedly understands right from wrong. She wins the gold metal of being a complete daddy’s girl. If daddy is away, she will reach out to his picture with eyes swelling with tears and begin her “Disney Princess” melodramatic monologues of how she misses him and misses playing. I get that the girl loves her daddy and I know what you’re thinking, “awe,that’s cute”, but this happens mostly after she becomes overly sensitive to one of the commercials on her qubo network that portrays a boy asking his mother when his father (who was on a business trip) was coming home. The song by Lonestar ” Already There” begins to play and Mileena goes all in. You the one. Trust me when I say she would be a terrific little actress. But I know there’s truth there.
Everything can be turned into a gentle lesson. It does take effort and patience to help our children acquire fruits of the spirit. But if we, ourselves, cannot attribute our own actions to these fruits, then we can not begin to teach our children. One thing I am working hard on with Mileena is patience. She’s in need of constant reassurance of things to come. For example, she can not wait til her birthday. She needs to be reminded of each month, day and hour. She wants her birthday to hurry. When waiting in line somewhere, she tends to become fidgety and ask when we’re going home. When I am doing chores around the house and she’ll ask to have a drink or for a certain toy for me to retrieve but will want it rushed. I’ll have to remind her to allow me to finish the task at hand first and then I’ll assist her. Yes, my patience is undoubtedly tried at times but in order to teach her I have to set the example even if that means constantly reassuring her. She does well with kindness,self control,gentleness, has a lot of joy and understands peace and love. We are also working with her about charity. She does do a great job at giving and showing reverence. But there are times she’ll expect something in return. For a couple of years, we created simple care-packages for the homeless and personally delivered them. This taught Mileena about being charitable and humble. I will have to remind her occasionally of this as well as demonstrating God’s love and devotion to those in need. And to those who may have special needs. When a child sees something out of the ordinary they don’t really comprehend the reasoning. While working at an event one year, there was a man in a wheelchair that was slightly disfigured on one side of his face that came up to our booth. Mileena’s first reaction was being scared and confused. She asked why he looked the way he did. I gently pulled her aside and told her that God creates people differently and everyone is special and has a special purpose. I told her to never judge people on the outside but rather what’s in their hearts. She nodded and gave the man a big genuine smile.
On one Sunday morning,her Sunday school class made a basket that had paper loaves of bread and a few fish (signifying Matthew 14:17). One of her paper fishes had its fin ripped off and so she felt bad , but then wanted to throw it away. Her daddy and I realized it opened another great gentle lesson. We asked her to explain why she felt she needed to throw the ripped paper fish away. After, we asked would God do that? We explained that God still can use that fish to fulfill a purpose. That even though it may be ripped she could still play with it. It just became more special. This has happened one other time before with a toy bunny she got at the store. The poor bunny’s’ tail broke and she cried from remorse but didn’t think she could play with it any more. She begged for a new one. I used the same scenario to help her understand to see the uniqueness in everything. It’s not to teach cheapness . It’s to teach humility. One person that I feel the utmost respect for and use him in helping these lessons is Nick Vujicic. I feel there are lessons in life that God strategically stages for us to find and use for internal growth. But only if we look without hindrance and with an earnest heart. I conclude with this..
Romans 2:11- “For God shows no partiality”
We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul, a hope that enters into the inner place behind the curtain (Hebrews 6:19).