These two blogs were a great read for me: “Get to know yourself better” and “Awareness”. I have trouble still finding and expressing myself. However, I am finding out who I am through spiritual thought, prayer, and communication. These steps have helped a lot.
I must admit I admire Author Elizabeth Gilbert & her book Eat, Pray, Love as well as her quote:
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”
In retrospect, everyone can be considered a soul mate. Rather they’re a lover, a friend or mentor. You can really see the mirror affect if you choose to. When going about our daily routines we do what comes naturally. Not what comes spontaneously. Example: Waking up, eat a healthy breakfast, getting ready, going to work. Do you sometimes think “I’d rather sleep in, eat chocolate cover pancakes with sprinkles for breakfast, stay in sweat pants and a tank top and just relax and take time out of the day for myself… “? How about just driving a different way to work one day? A lot of people get stuck in a routines that dictate their life. And change is unbearable. But in order for the mirror affect to happen you have to bear the change. You have to have an open mind.
A start is to ask yourself certain questions.
My greatest challenge is that …?
What would I best describe the pain in my life right now as a feeling of …?
I am working on….?
How do I usually approach problems and life …?
I most value …?
In my ideal world, I will most want to have …?
I want more …?
I would most like to …?
Then once you’ve answer these questions. Reevaluate your answers. Then you can reevaluate your life and change it.
This is what I found so far about myself.
I tend to look for approval from others.
I am afraid of having no one to rely on in times of trouble. Also, I don’t ever want to be unable to take care of myself. Independence is important to me. I am full of energy and confidence. I’m unpredictable, with moods changing as quickly as an ocean tide. Though I may look calm; on the inside my thoughts are overwhelming me. I am passionate about trying new things. It’s a big world and I want to explore every part of it if I am able. Additionally, I lack connection and despise arrogance.
But that’s not it…..
I believe the first step to getting to know yourself is understanding first who you are in Christ. I believe how you answer the question “Who is Jesus” will be central to your own identity as well.
Getting to know oneself without Him is pushing the limits. It’s not about figuring out your favorite color, pet, subject or number. It’s your influences, relationships, self doubts, insecurities, understanding your strengths and weaknesses, passions and fears. Also, your tolerances and limits. It’s a conscious. If I do not know myself, especially who I am in Christ, then how can I truly follow what is good?
God knows us. He knows everything about who we are because, well, he created you. He made us fearfully and wonderfully in His image.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” -Psalm 139:14d
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”Jeremiah 1:5
We may not understand the why’s or how’s of it but we can rest assure that He knows us better than anyone; even ourselves. Therefore, we have to trust that, come what may, he has set us apart from one another for good reason and we each have something to give . We each have different strengths and weaknesses, therefore we just have to look deep within to find what those strengths and weaknesses are. Sometimes we figure them out through hard circumstances. But at other times, those we keep close can allow us to answer most of the questions we have.
Once we understand who we are in Christ , we no longer chase the desires of the flesh, we do not fear the future, there is no need for comparison and people pleasing, and we can trust that when hardships come it’s God redirecting our path and perhaps allow us to understand who we are in the middle of those hardships.
Stay full of Christ and continue to seek what is good. Be courageous.
Who we are is contingent to who we are in Christ.