“Is there such a thing as being TOO real?”

“Can we be TOO transparent?”

“In writing, how much of our own personal struggles should we share vs. not share?”

These are just a few of the questions I’ve been asking myself lately. It is no secret that I wear my heart on my sleeve in person as well as in my writing, but is that always a good thing?

You, also, may or may not remember my post from a few months ago, “the letter to the girl who didn’t sing at church today”. That was written at a very raw and vulnerable time in my life where everything I thought I knew was falling apart in front of my eyes.

Right before I submitted that post, fear started to flood my thoughts.

“this is too much, I can’t post this”

“I’ve never exposed myself like this in my writing before”

“I’m afraid what others will think of me”

Thankfully I pushed past these thoughts and clicked the “submit” button. When that post published a month or so afterwards, I was overwhelmed to see the positive responses and feedback I received from you, the readers.

Ladies saying they needed that reminder, and ladies saying they can relate. Also, ladies thanking me for writing that message. And if you don’t get anything else from this post, please remember that:

The need for you to share your story is greater than the need for you to guarded.

I invite you to consider these 4 points when sharing your story:

1. Examine your motive.

Why do you want to share this? Are you looking for sympathy? Advice? What is your WHY for sharing?

2. How do you want to readers to feel after reading it?

Inspired? Encouraged? Sympathetic? Hopeful?

3. Would you still share this if your name was anonymous?

If you get 1 or 100,000 likes/comments does that change your decision to share?

4. Is God present in this story?

Is this written in such a way where God’s faithfulness is demonstrated?

The truth of the matter is EVERYTHING we write needs to give glory to God. No matter what we walk through God is there.

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6

Even though I walk
    through the darkest valley,
I will fear no evil,
    for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
    they comfort me. Psalm 23:4

So whether we write through the eyes of joy or the eyes of pain the common denominator is God’s faithfulness. Through sharing our stories, even the scary super-transparent ones, we are in a position to point others to God, and that really is what it all about.

God gives us each our own path, our own journey that is full of ups and downs and highs and lows. No two stories are the same, as we are all wonderfully unique and have our own stories to share. So I would like to encourage you to keep sharing, and to keep getting real and raw with your story because you never know who God has purposed to hear it!

Blessings sweet friends!

Mrs. Stephanie Miller

Mrs. Stephanie Miller

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11).