“I will tell you that on the day of judgment people will have to account for every careless word they speak.”  (Matthew 12:36)

I believe our culture cordially invites us to partake in judgment, insecurity, and comparison.  Attributes the devil celebrates.  Trudging through life’s fierce battles can be tolerable when surrounded with support from friends and family.  However, women today would rather sling harsh words through social media versus providing a dose of encouragement.  I am truly astounded by the “mean girls” who are looking for someone to devour.

Let’s imagine the amount of hurt that could be eliminated if we were more committed to declaring words of inspiration.  We are women striving to find balance in a world screaming “do more, do more.”  While other Moms peer in judgment about circumstances they know nothing about; I want to believe the best in people.  I can remember a time when the sting of someone’s words bit me to the core.  The amazing thing is, that was several years ago, but I still get that pit in my stomach every time I think about it.

It is easy to get caught up in judgment and harsh attitudes, but we were made for more than cheap words of ridicule.  Are we consumed with insecurities that trickle down to friends or family?  We have to lay over our uncertainties to our Heavenly Father.  We are doing this world a disservice by conforming to its culture. We need to find unity in our daily struggles, by talking things out and coming to amicable agreements.  Imagine the hurt that would disappear if we committed ourselves to saying positive encouraging words to each other and about each other.

The old saying goes that “hurting people hurt people” and “misery loves company.”  But what if we stood up against the cultural norm and decided – I am not going to do this anymore!  I am stopping the insecurities, the judgments and the comparisons today.  I am going to consider my words before I say a snide remark.  I will be the positive influence God has called me!  1 Thessalonians 5:11 tells me to “encourage one another and build each other up.”  This pursuit will stir the devil, but my temptation will no longer be followed with participation.

We are vitally important to this world.  Our circle of influence is not by chance, it is divinely purposed by God himself.   We are molding the next generation of believers.  Whether we are a Mother, a Sunday School teacher or Bible Study leader – we are influencing younger women.  They are looking to us, let’s be Son-Reflectors and mirror the image of Jesus Christ.


Heather Hoerst

Heather Hoerst

Colossians 3:4, "When Christ, who is your real life, is revealed to the whole world, you will share in all His glory."