At the center of every romantic relationship is an underlying question that causes the guy to be curious but the girl to know the answer.
It’s the very essence of sweet romance.
It’s you – and your virtues…
Great Expectations. Health relationships are built on boundaries, expectations, etc. The expectations that keep romance sweet are requirements such as where you will touch me; when you will touch me; and how you will touch me. Yes, you may kiss my hand or no you may not. Sometimes these expectations are so clear they are unspoken. And other times they are spoken to be very clear. Guys will be curious in the expectations – some guys are more curious than others. But knowing your boundaries of how far you want the relationship to go is your decision and yours alone. Put this verse into your heart, Amos 3:3 (NIV): “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” You set the stage for what is allowable. Well, with God’s guidance, of course!
Pure Beauty. It’s a real challenge to find fashion designers that can appreciate the need to cover up. Or as my grandmother would have said, “Leave a little for the imagination.” Open back dresses, low cut tops, exposed skin on midriffs and long skirts that are see-thru, make my heart sink. By being modest we refocus the relationship off of lust and onto us. The real part of us that matters more – the sweetness. Rationalizing an outfit, doesn’t make a relationship better, it destroys the wholesomeness of it. Put this verse into your heart, Proverbs 3:15 (NIV) says, “She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her.” Quite frankly, if he can’t see the pure beauty standing right in front of him then he’s as blind as a bat!
Loveliness. Being part of a team and guiding aspects of your relationship means you should be have the qualities listed in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV), “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Striving for a fair and loving relationship will serve you best. As a sister in Christ, we should be working on these qualities any way, no matter our relationship status.
In a world that’s fighting for our very identity and attempting to change how we view relationships, we must hold onto our sweetness.
As your relationship with that special guy continues to grow, we’ll discuss what comes next, “Part 3: The Lost Art of Romance and How long?”