Marriage is a serious commitment. When we make our vows to each other we are making a commitment before God that should not be taken lightly. Most of us made vows to love to honor and to cherish until death parts us both. In this marriage series, we will explore each of these promises individually. If you made these vows before God, how important do you think it is to revisit them? Are you keeping them? How do you know? As we peel apart the vows, commitments and promises we made to our spouse, what have we learned so far?
Most would say that this is the easy part of marriage. At the beginning of a marriage relationship it is specially easy to love. Mostly because we think of love as a feeling and not as an action. We are in love and therefore it is easy to love. However, marriage will test your commitment to love your husband. When we made our files some of us may have committed to be there for our husbands in sickness and in health. We may have promised to forsake all others and be faithful only to him. We know that we are truly loving when there is opposition to that love.
Love is easy when hate is not an option. You may be thinking that is a strong word to use, but if you are not loving then you may be doing the opposite. When times get tough in marriage we may be aggravated by our spouses or even dislike our spouses. Some would even dare to use the word hate. What then? If love is a feeling and feelings are fleeting, then your love is fleeting as well. We must remind ourselves what the Bible tells us about love. 1st Corinthians 13 says that love is patient and kind, self-sacrificing and loyal. Have you been that kind of wife?
A better question may be “How loving to your husband would your friends say that you are?”. If other people would give a synopsis of how loving you were to your spouse, is there enough evidence to show that you are a loving wife? You see, we are quick to say that we are loving and lovable even, however, the proof is in the pudding. When you love, you do not even have to say it, it shows.
- Let Your Love show. Let there be no doubt that in your words, actions, body language and behavior, that you truly love your husband.