So there we sat, hearing things that were said about ourselves I could never fathom true. These words were not coming from a supposed enemy. Even worse, those hurt filled words came from friends. When you share life and break bread with people it is a sacred bond. When you open your home it’s an opening of your heart that is hard to close. So why do friendships falter?
Many times when a friend betrays you it feels like a breakup. You go through stages of grieving because you’ve lost a person in your life that you shared moments and memories. Questions of “What could I have done different?” and “Why would they say those things?” pass through your heart. Often times you become angry at the time you have invested and the way it ended, I absolutely do. Truth is, friendships are often only for a season. God gives you people to sharpen your character whether that be patience, to be supported, or in a lot of cases teaching how to forgive.
Jesus himself had very few friends during his time on Earth. All of those friends were imperfect. Many doubted, mocked and abandoned Him. Really a few untrue words are nothing compared to all that was done. How do I expect to have a gaggle of perfect people surrounding me when Jesus only had a select few and one of those betrayed to the extent of His death? How do I expect perfect people at all when I’m seriously flawed myself? Truth is, we have a perfect friend. We don’t have to wait for a call, email or text back, we just need to stop and talk. Even the whisper of His name can relieve burdens of the heart.
Jesus said himself, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” (John 14:27 NIV)
When you feel betrayed and rejected, stand firm in the promise you have a perfect friend always cheering you on. Go to Him when you feel betrayed, not to an angry place that causes more problems and worry. Give grace and feel His peace that he so freely gives. Remember that this world is flawed (and so are you) and perfection is unreachable in our lifetime but not to fret, perfection is just on the other side of this life.