bouquet-690657_640In a world that’s fighting for our affections, identity and choices, clean wholesome romance is sideswiped by pop culture, novels and Hollywood movies. And real guys that have the potential to master the art of romance are often hard to find and even lost in the mix.

So, where does a girl look for a little sweet romance?

  1. In a gentleman. I look for many qualities in a guy, but any guy that’s capable of pure romance will be a gentleman.Remember the 1950s movies where the guy would drive up to the house, honk his horn and the mom would say – “Don’t you dare go out there. That’s not a sign of a true gentleman. He should come to the door, escort you to the car and open the car door for you.”

In 2017 where some girls are looking for more independence, they should never underestimate the value of a guy respecting you from the time he meets you, to your first date and beyond. Honoring you, taking a little extra time for you and making sure you are happy, says something. It says he’s a gentleman. And a true gentleman has time for you and romance.

Test it: Would your grandmother say he’s a gentleman?

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)

2. In thoughtfulness. A guy should not be required to be a Romeo, Casanova or a Zac Efron. But he should be thoughtful. As a matter of fact, he should be original in how he treats you. For example, I would never want to receive a bouquet of a dozen roses. Too predictable for me! I’d much prefer a boutique of my favorite flowers or even flower petals. My special guy came to learn this about me. And the more he learns me, the more I receive gifts and acts of love that touch my heart. A caring guy is a romantic guy, despite how our world thinks a guy should be tough dude.

Test it: Would his mom say he’s thoughtful.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV.

3. In Deeds. He may not be the most popular or crowd-pleasing all-star, but he sure is a servant. Service to God’s kingdom, family and friends is the hallmark of an honorable gentleman. Always be on the lookout for a guy that seeks to be a servant in all his relationships – not just you.

Test it: What do others say of his deeds and actions?

“What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds?” James 2:14 (NIV)

4. In Time. My grandpa of 92 years old always said this world seems to be in a big hurry. No one wants to wait on anything or anyone. I admit I am as inpatient as they come. But I do know that by setting my standards for a thoughtful gentleman with right intentions, means there’s less guys to find and it may require a longer wait.

Test it: Would you wait for the right one? Or settle to not be alone?

“Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain.” Psalms 127:1 (NIV)

So when that special guy touches your hand for the first time, lightly rubbing his fingers across your knuckles and those gitty goose bumps come over you, know that the wait, and the moment was real! Who knows he may be just like you – looking for a little sweet romance too.

Next time, the “Lost Art of Romance and How to Be It: Part 2”

Mrs. J Young

Mrs. J Young

"But where sin increased, grace increased all the more" (Romans 5:20b).