sparkler-677774Wow is it really 2017? I remember just entering 2016 with a list of goals, of things that I wanted to accomplish to make this year another stepping stone.  As all of the years before this, and more so I want this next year to count. So this year as I sat down to make a list of goals, I first wanted to look at all I had accomplished this year, and then the areas I fell short. As I began examining it I decided to start a new tradition this year, to pray over my goals and my failures. As I began to pray I felt overly unmotivated, so I decided to take a shower and listen to some worship music. As the water sound fell around me with the the worship music enveloping my soul, I just listened. I wanted to hear and what I heard changed…. well everything. As I just sat there seeing these moments flash in my eyelids, I began to see a pattern. Every time I went through something hard, stressful, and scary I was pushed this year and the push not only changed my personality for the better it really changed all of me. I saw that my goals were not important as the roads I took to get to them. These roads were more who I became than what I got at the end. They were in the moments at the alter, the moments crying out to God in the car after an awful Walmart trip. They were in the moments of healing through my marriage, watching my kids realize divorce in its full cruelness,and learning that sometimes God really is the only person you can talk to. So I began to talk to mentors, close friends and develop a circle of active praying I found these roads one by one and I would love for you to join me in the adventure of not only finding them, but exploring them to their fullest depths of what they may have for you. Matthew 16:25 (ESV) says “For whoever would save their life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” These roads are part of what helped me learn it was okay to lose my life to gain the life God had waiting for me.

The next verse that was given to me for this lead me to my first road, a road that I have always struggled with. Ephesians 4:25 says (ESV) states “Therefore having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.” Whew.

The first word that flew into my head with this was Boundaries. I have always been awful at setting them, I detest hurting someones feelings. Often times this has left me overworked, bitter, tired, and stressed out to say the least. Failure to initiate boundaries was a huge part of what I did wrong in my first marriage. Not only with my husband, but with my family as well. I had a serious inability to initiate boundaries, but I also know this is something many women struggle with. We often take on everyone’s work, plus our children’s play, and don’t forget all that comes with it. I began to read the book Boundaries by Dr.Henry Cloud and Dr.John Townsend. This book guided me through how to set godly boundaries in my life and begin to set realistic expectations as well. So I implore you. Order the book, pray over the boundaries in your life. The ones you need to place and the ones you feel the need to lift. So yes, I am asking more than I think a writer normally asks of their audience. I am asking you to dive in, read books, find your bible, and walk your walk with God. Don’t let 2017 be another “Year of the New You.” Let it be a year in which you can see growth in your self and a year in which you see yourself walking with God in a new way.

Ms. Allison White

Ms. Allison White

"For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord; Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans for a hope and future" (Jeremiah 29:11).