Before we can begin to understand God freeing us from insecurity lets talk about what insecurity really is.

Emotional insecurity or simple insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one’s self-image or ego. (Wikipedia)

The Webster Dictionary:

  • Not confident about yourself or your ability to do things well, nervous and uncomfortable.
  • Not certain to continue or be successful for a long time.
  • Not locked or well protected.

We are but a thought and a smile in our parent’s hearts at the hopes of them having a baby. They think about who we will be, who we will look like, who we will act like, and who we will become. Our parents imagine the best for us. They long for the day our little hand will wrap around their finger and for our smile to embrace their hearts. You see even before we are born we are being thought of in a positive light. Just as our parents think of us this way God thinks of us even more. He thought of us first. God planned our existence and the bible says “Even the hairs of your head are all numbered.”

(Matthew 10:30 ESV). If God knows every hair on our head, don’t you think He knows exactly who you are?

You see, we were created in the image of Jesus and He is perfect.  We live on this earth full of sin. We are born into an imperfect world sadly, but we are given hope and freedom because Jesus gave His life for ours. If Jesus was willing to die a terrible death for our lives you better believe that He thinks we are worth great value. Once we are born I believe a destiny is set in place for us. I believe God has a purpose that we can tap into and live out with His help. This purpose is what we are looking for in life that will help fulfill us and it is what I believe changes the world.

When we accept God into our lives and live He begins to change us and in return He gives us the opportunity to help change the world. Because we are born into a sinful world we go through a lot of pain and suffering at the hands of others that have been through a lot of pain and suffering themselves. I believe one of the most profound phrases God has dropped into my heart is “Hurt people, hurt people.” At first, I really had to say it over a few times because it sounds so odd, but once I really asked God what He was trying to say to me I got it on a much deeper level. There is a never-ending cycle of hurt and pain going on in our world, and these hurts are what cause our insecurities.

Hurt people living their lives not knowing how to be free of the pain that has been brought to them by others. And that cycle continues and has continued since the beginning of the world. These hurts cause insecurities from all areas of life that breath into all areas of our lives. The only way to get over the insecurities that are rooted in our inner beings is to know who we are and to know who God says we are.

His child (John 1:12)

A vine connected to Him (John 15:1,5)

His friend (John 15:15)

Redeemed (Romans 3:24)

No longer a slave to sin (Romans 6:2,6)

Not condemned (Romans 8:1)

A heir with Christ (Romans 8:17)

We have wisdom (1 Corinthians 1:30)

My body is a temple (1 Corinthians 6:19)

New in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Set FREE (Galatians 5:1)

Chosen (Ephesians 1:4)

Created to do good works (Ephesians 2:10)

These verses are just a few of what the bible tells us that God says we are. God’s love is endless for all of us, Jesus intercedes for all of us, the Holy Spirit dwells in all of us once we are saved by accepting Jesus in and asking Him to clean us up. We were created to have a relationship with the Trinity (Father, Son & Holy Spirit). We are so important and the world doesn’t want us to know it!

Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will not pass away. Matthew (24:35 ESV), 

We were created from His words and He has spoken wonderful things into us that will never pass away. People that cause us pain are in pain themselves. We tend to not see that, but only see the bully side, and the meanness of the world. We see the faces of those people and let the action they do against us create a divot in our hearts, and after another person says or does something in that same manner against us, it makes the divot deeper and bigger until a hole is created. Once that hole is created, we then, fill it with the negative words spoken to us, about us, and over us.

WE collect the words and bring them into us and hold onto them. Once we claim them as part of us and believe the lie, it becomes infused within, and then, the insecurity is deeply rooted where it can be watered for growth. The more insecurities we allow ourselves to believe, the bigger the hole becomes and before we know it we don’t know who we are and before too long we are so far from who we wanted to be that we don’t know how to get back to “us”.

Thankfully there is a way! God has clearly placed  in the bible who “He”, says we are and what “He”, says about us. He clearly says how special we are and how precious we are to Him. Now it’s time to actually believe it, it’s time to take Him at His word, claim His words over ourselves, start believing we are worth it, and believe that we don’t deserve to be treated poorly and hurt.

We are children of God and He wants to give us favor and love.

No two people are the same. God created us all differently, we may have similarities, but even with those similarities, we are different. Just as a parent cannot love two children the exact same, God doesn’t love us exactly the same. We are loved in a unique way that we need to be loved.

It is time to let Jesus take the words we have stored within the holes of our heart and spirit. It is time to let every mean, hateful word that we have let take us captive and cast it out into the depths of the sea. Let us open our hearts to the One that has all of the answers we desire. Let us give those hurts over to Jesus and be made whole and set free.

Here are a few steps that help me when I need to clean out my baggage and have a healing session with Jesus.

  1. Find a quiet place to reflect and seek His presence.
  2. Ask Holy Spirit to be with you and reveal to you what you need to be set free of. (You can write down what you receive. Receiving can be in the form of a thought, a still small voice, a prompting in your inner being.)
  3. Ask a question about what you are shown and listen for a response.
  4. Ask forgiveness for believing the lie of the enemy.
  5. Picture yourself putting that lie in a box and hand that box to Jesus.
  6. Ask Jesus what He would like to replace that lie with.
  7. Ask Jesus what He says about you.
  8. Claim the blessings of Jesus love, joy, and anything else shown to you etc. over you.

I do this exercise in the quiet of my room, closet and car a few times a month. It helps me to stay connected and in tune with what I am allowing in and to seek what Jesus has for me. Staying in tune with God makes me feel so free and light. I feel the insecurity and hurt lift off of me. Believing who WE are in Jesus isn’t always easy, but the more we walk in our Father’s footsteps the easier it becomes to see who we truly are.  

It is important to ground ourselves in this truth when we step in-tune with God. Here is a little information my Mom told me that I found interesting.

A Moth follows light vigilantly dismissing the risk of losing its life. At times they follow a false light (a lamp or porch light), but the Moon is the moth’s mother and she will follow it at all cost. This makes her open to distraction, vulnerability, and easily hurt.

My question is, “How much more will we follow our Father’s light than a moth follows the light of the moon?”

At all cost I am choosing to walk hand in hand, step in step with my Father and Savior. Will you join me?

Mrs. Kelley Hughes

Mrs. Kelley Hughes

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future" (Proverbs 31:25)