Get Rid of That Lie That Holds You Back Once and for All!
She threw her book bag into the van along with a wave of heaviness. Not even a smile.
I asked how her day went. I got a short answer. “Fine.”
The very word I have used over and over again when I had no words to express the deep ache in my heart. Uttering fine, praying no more questions were to be asked. Because fine was all I could utter when pain was all I could feel.
She’s only ten.
How can I tell her fine is inadequate? How can I tell her hurts kept in the dark will never be healed? It’s the enemy’s way of keeping us broken and afraid.
She really could take one long, deep breath and feel His Presence. When you’re in Christ, it’s His job to fill in all the broken places. It’s our job to stop saying fine and give Him all the broken pieces.
She exhales and bites her lip, knowing fine will not be good enough.
What’s wrong? What happened? Love knows when there is a wound in need of healing.
Love opens up and allows healing to occur, even if it seems the bleeding may never stop.
I was shocked by what she said:
“He said I should stop talking. He said no one hears you and no one sees you. So you should just go away.”
There it was–the pain and hurt of my little girl. And there was the very lie the enemy has taunted me with for years.
No one sees you. No one hears you. Why bother?
Only stillness between us as I held back tears. Tears for not only her and I. Tears for an entire generation of women who have been believing this lie. How many of us have held back because no one sees or hears us? How many times have we missed bringing Heaven to earth because this lie has echoed in our spirits?
I reminded her of all the times she has been seen and heard. Of the time she flew all the way to El Salvador to preach the Gospel of Jesus. Of the time she shared a word of an encouragement to a friend in need. And of the many times,her cousins shrieked with joy as she walked through the door. And most importantly, of all the times when her voice shook, Heaven and prayers were answered.
How quickly we forget how our actions and words have made an impact. Discounting the very action God uses to shape another person. We can take comfort in knowing,
“God will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped people and continue to help them” (Hebrews 6:10)..
The liar wants to steal our voice and keep us silent. He wants to silence all the moments when we are called to step out, to be a light in the darkness, to bring forth the gospel, to bring a little kindness to a world that’s filled with hate. He wants us to believe we don’t matter.
How do we change the world when we’re believing our voice is not heard and we’re not seen?
When you start believing your Maker doesn’t hear you or see you, you stop praying for the impossible.
The truth is: If you believe you are not seen or heard, you stop believing for the impossible.
How many missed opportunities because we believe, “Why bother? No one sees us or hears us anyway?”
I want to look into your eyes like I did my daughter’s, and say,“You are seen. You are heard. You are the daughter of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Created and set apart for a purpose. He knows every hair on your body. He knows your thoughts and loves you with a never-ending love. You are altogether beautiful and there is not one flaw in you. His banner over you is love. When you sleep at night, He sings songs of deliverance over you. He is crazy in love with you and is moved by every word and action of yours. Open the love letters He has written you and see how he feels.”
My daughter knows I have not completely overcome this lie of being unseen and unheard. She knows this woman is still a work in progress. She has seen the battles I have walked through but has had a front row seat as the words of the enemy begin to fade away when exposed to the Light.
At some point, you have to stop believing the lie and be who He has created you to be. “Perhaps you were born for such a time as this” (Esther 4:14).
I am learning a life walked out perfectly is pointless, because vulnerability draws people to the truth and creates space for others to share.
The first step of walking the truth out is to expose the lie. Expose the lie, and you’ll diminish the power it has over you.