People come and go, but God will stay forever. This is a sentence I have found to be true. I have had many friends that have came into my life that I thought would stay over the last 20 years.
Then, one day I notice they were drifting away and no longer engaging in our friendship or my life. I started to think “Where did I go wrong?” I mull it all over in my head, our entire friendship flashes in my mind. I try to figure out how I messed up, what I did wrong, what I could have done better to make them stay in my life, and remain friends.
The answer is NOTHING.
I did nothing wrong, I couldn’t go back and change anything if I wanted to because I did nothing wrong. I was there for them when they needed me, encouraged them, and cheered them on. I had to realize that friends are a season of life just as every other transition phase we go through.
God places people in our lives for a reason.
There are so many reason friends are apart of our lives and, we ,apart of theirs. It may be to help nurture and heal, guide and walk beside in support, to push forward in something, to mentor, to show love and respect, to be a witness,to laugh and enjoy.
There is also a reason the friendship comes to an end.
When friends fade out there is no way around it, it hurts. We give our all, love them, feel a connection, and then one day it feels as if none of it mattered and they walk away.
Can I tell you something?
God knows. He knows your hurting. He knows that space is empty. He knows you tried, and He, also, knows your hearts desires.
God desires to be your friend. God desires you to fill that empty space with Him. God desires to laugh with you and to create a forever friendship with you.
“The Lord will fight for you. You need only be still” Exodus 14:14 (ESV Bible)
This verse settles the mind and soothes the spirit if we let it. When we get to the point we do not understand the “why”, may we let a bible verse stand in that question mark!
Throughout the entire bible, there are verses we can choose to represent us and how we feel in every season of life. My absolute favorite verse and I call it my life verse is “She is clothed in strength and dignity; she laughs without fear of the future”. Proverbs 31:25 (ESV Bible).
I have overcome so much and I know God has my future. I can remain in His presence and claim this verse for myself. I have learned that when friends are taken out of my life it is time for me to put God where that friend was.
The more I fight it and try to keep a connection with that person, the more I am missing out on my friendship growing with God. I may even be putting something in my future God wants to give me back farther because I am not willing to let go.
Letting go can be scary.
Letting go can and will be painful.
Letting go can leave us empty.
It’s what we do when we finally do let go that matters.
Don’t hold anger in your heart.
Don’t hold that sadness and let it encapsulate your heart.
Don’t let the devil have any say over the loss.
Let the love of God come flooding in. Let your relationship with God flourish and grow. When we are in pain and hurting the best thing for us is Jesus. Be Brave! Dare to go where you haven’t been before. Let go of the past and lean into your future with God.
There is no better place to be than on the lap of our Heavenly Father, who also wants to be our forever friend.